by Monika Barta
It was a warm Friday night in the Bay. The sun was almost down and the street lights took their shift. After a long week, two college girls, LeeAnn and Suzy met up for a couple of drinks in the City.
“Am… So… I don’t know what to do with Jeff,” LeeAnn started the conversation, “I wish he had more money.. I mean, a girl like me shouldn’t be with a mediocre, right?”
Suzy seemed shocked, “What do you mean he has no money?? Is he good in bed at least? What about Tom, is it over yet?”
This is just an abstract example of the values that are widely held today.
Multitasking is deeply ingrained in the society and whereas it might serve as a huge benefit in our academic and professional lives it has a negative side that unfortunately is constantly overlooked.
“Easy come, easy go” can be used as an overall definition of the lifestyle embraced by the majority of college students.
It’s all fun and good until the realization that every action has consequences. The issue here is not the lifestyle itself; it’s the misconception of certain terms.
One night stands, friends with benefits and polygamy relationships are perceived to be easier and require less investment. However, these, as many other things in life, only provide a one-second-lasting satisfaction which is usually washed away with the morning sun.
The outcome of such relationships usually involves heartbreak, trust issues and a significant decrease in self value, especially for girls. Whereas many people share a common goal to create a safe and loving family in the future, many also tend to completely detach their college experiences from their goals.
However, things like a well-paid and stable career or normal adult relationship don’t tend to fall out of the sky right after graduation; as any achievements in life, these require thoughtful effort and work.
The levels of submissiveness rise due to maximalism that is highly praised in today’s culture and the broad selection of things and services providing comfort and satisfaction.
The easy accessible variation in everything from drinks, to other substances, to prospective spouses catches many students off guard, spinning their heads and luring them into the never-ending merry-go-round of artificial pleasure.
Even though a little party never killed anybody, overdosing isn’t healthy. Whereas this unavoidably comes down to the personal preferences and choices of every individual, the understanding that binge-drinking or binge… mating isn’t going to have a positive outcome is much needed.